Fifteen-plus years ago, I met my best friend, my future husband. We married and then soon found ourselves caught up in the idea of melding two lives together, plus children. Like many marriages, the first couple of years were a little bumpy, a balance between elation and “what the heck do we do now?” moments. It wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t always good either. I think that’s what happens with many couples — they just don’t realize there will be more work after the wedding. The honeymoon period phases out and real life steps in. And maybe that’s when many marriages fail, the couples giving up when it gets hard. No longer are the things you found so cute just as cute. Now they annoy you. Or you’re afraid to communicate. Or you don’t know how to be two people who live together now. Whatever the case, marriage isn’t always easy.
But it’s worth it.
My husband is my very best friend. We’ve worked together (we actually met at work), raised children together, griped about life together, held each other’s hands through medical issues (well, he’s the one in the waiting room 99% of the time), carried each other’s baggage from the past, laughed, played, fought, moved, and everything else under the sun. He is the one I go to for anything I can’t say to anyone else. He is my rock and my shoulder and my soft place to land.
He also gets me. He knows how I am, that I like to be silly, that I like to be creative. He knows I’m not made of ordinary materials where I can ignore my heart and desires, that I dream big and aim high. He also knows I hate to put away the laundry and loathe cleaning the bathroom. I complain about the dogs and gripe about the way cashiers bag my groceries. And he’s OK with it.
I’m a crazy, beautiful mess, and he accepts me just as I am.
Fifteen years. I’ve loved this man for 15+ years and I will love him always.
And besides, how many husbands will not only support silly photo ideas but also encourage them and give ideas on how to make them better? So, on our fifteenth wedding anniversary this month, after a wonderful morning hike and before a great old-fashioned dinner-and-a-movie date, we did this:
And a few other pics from our day
And we lived happily ever after… (Oh honey, stop rolling your eyes!)